The first batch will be from my family and friends when I say that I’m tired of being mad at dave.
I”ve loved him for more of my life than I haven’t and that can’t count for nothing.
Also there are so many times that I wish I could tell him stuff.
He’s been my friend longer than he’s been my husband. I really do miss that.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to have chatty emails and phone calls but I can see a time when on occasion we can contact each other for something other than business.
I think one reason for this change of heart is that I’m happier than I’ve been in years. I feel fulfilled with my writing. I adore when I receive positive responses for something I’ve done rather than something dave has done.
I also have these 2 pets, both rescues, that I love like crazy. They are almost too great. My cat could easily win a beauty contest and don’t ask about my dog. He’s flawless.
Now for the negative responses I’m going to get for what I’m going to say next.
As you all must know by now, my husband left me for a Japanese woman.
In the past few years I’ve noticed that one out of every ten couples I see in the street are comprised of Japanese women and American men, rarely the other way around.
(DISCLAIMER: The 1 in 10 thing has no mathematical basis in fact. It’s just a number I might have pulled out of my ass and my assessment of these couples walking around the street refer only to what I’ve seen in New York and as most of you know, I don’t give a shit about anyplace else)
I have come to the conclusion that Japanese women have something that American women don’t have. It appears that whatever it is it’s drawing American men to it like flies to honey.
Are they nicer? Better lovers? Less argumentative? Whatever it is, our boys clearly like it. I keep running this over in my mind. Is it possible that dave’s new wife never calls him her meal ticket or tells him to shut his piehole? Nah, can’t be. She may be from another land but she’s human and he never shuts up about what boring thing he’s just read on Reddit.
Again this is my opinion. Don’t be writing and telling me that you have an American girlfriend in Idaho with a great personality.
Now is this racist? Probably, but I can’t imagine that it’s pissing them off. What African American man has objected to people thinking that they all have big dicks. I’d bet none.
That being said it’s probably not dave’s fault (although he’s lost the capital D forever) but I will never stop hating that piece of shit that he married and now that I’m writing this whole thing I’m mad at him again too so they can both go fuck themselves.
😊 Sounds to me like you are growing to love your life and willing to forgive dave, if not the slut, for their transgressions against you personally. No hate from me, congrats from me and hopes that your new life continues to improve 😊
I’m becoming very close to perfect.
Excellent Mattie! I agree with the above (bronsont), It is all a process that clearly ebbs & flows (maybe that is too North Westy-Portland talk.) But I do love the flow of that post you wrote ending with go F–k themselves!
I gotta be me.
Little d is the one losing out. Men are children, no doubt about it. Sad thing is as we age men grab someone else and we are left to row our own boats in the time of life when we most need a partner. Let me just say this, little d’s relationship with this woman probably will not last. Patterns tend to repeat….
I think it will last. He seems happy but I don’t care either way
I am so glad to hear you say everything that you did. Of course it doesn’t change what happened and I am a firm believer that you have to allow yourself the luxury of being insanely pissed until you can forgive it and let it go as much as you can. You’ve replaced most of that with newness in your life and don’t forget about the constants of your loving family and forever friends that admire you and support your every dream. I am definately one of them, Mattie! Just want ya to know. xoxo
That’s so sweet, Donna, thank you.
I’m Asian-American but not Japanese. This is not hate mail. I just came across your blog today, and I really enjoy your humor and wit. I admire your gumption to enjoy life anyway and to lay it all out there. What woman in her right mind would want to steal a 70 yr old man from his wife (unless he is fabulously rich,etc.)? Not that it is ever ok to seduce a married man in the first place. My not-so-scientific attempt at answering your questions about Japanese women is no, most won’t tell a man to his face to shut his hole. Their aggression is passive. If pissed off, they might give him the silent treatment, go shopping with his money, or have an affair. The ones from Asia (as opposed to Asian-Americans) pretend to be sweet, smart yet in some need of saving, so the white man feels like a strong hero. He often does not know that he may be a means to an end. They do not care to publicly assert equal status to a man, nor would they say something to emasculate or challenge him. They get what they want indirectly: soft words, tend to him, act grateful in ways to make him feel like a man, even if in private they might think he is a doofus. I know plenty of women from Asia who play that game.
I’m always willing to be educated.
If I ever marry again I will try that approach although now that I have a perfect dog and cat the likeliness of this is almost nil.
BTW I love you.